Worthy
Written by Jen Shifler
“Cultivating self-worth inside of you is one of the greatest ways to show love to others.”
Worthy- a new book about how you believe in yourself, how you love yourself, and how you become unstoppable was brilliantly written by the author Jaime Kern Lima, a leading voice in personal development, who is passionate about inspiring and elevating women.
In her recent book she so simply explains the differences between self-confidence and self-worth. One stands on the foundation of the other and she shares that self-worth is the very foundation of our fulfillment. She beautifully explains the underlying belief that most of us have and explains in depth how achievement does not lead to love or fulfillment.
We spend so much of our time with the underlying belief that the closer we get to that aesthetic ideal, the more we’ll be enough and loved. And that these beliefs are reinforced as truths by well-intended people around us and by advertisements all around us. When in fact, none of these very things that we spend so much time striving for actually lead us to the true feeling of being enough, truly loved, or truly fulfilled (27).
The belief that you need to achieve more, to do more, to be more in order to feel love is a lie. And it is common to believe this lie. Simply because you exist, you’re worthy. Self-worth is your foundation and self-confidence is the house you build on top of it. Your house will only ever be as secure as the foundations it’s built upon.
The key takeaway is simple. Just because you exist, you’re worthy and the most vital understanding that you can hold is that you, right now, are truly worthy, exactly as you are. This does not mean that you do not continue on, passionately pursuing the very things that you want in this one precious life. It just means that when you actually obtain them, you can enjoy them completely and if you do not get them, you still feel fulfilled and unshakably worthy.
There are no three-step practices or monthly challenges left in the book but the messages throughout are heart exploding. The final message offered is more of a knowing, and that is... The only way to achieve that lasting feeling of love and worthiness is to know that it already exists within us. In full power at our core, it is us. She repeats it again and then continues once more...Who you truly are is LOVE. It is already inside of you and is simply you. That's it. It's knowing. So go on knowing with an unwavering love for you, exactly as you are.