The Power of Support in Grief
Written by: Melissa Savage, MA LMFT
The passing of a child leaves an enduring ache in our hearts. In the rawness of grief, we may feel misunderstood by others who expect us to swiftly “move on” and “heal”.” Though rooted in care, these urgings overlook a difficult truth: we are forever altered by this loss. More than urging us to forget, we need spaces to memorialize and honor the legacies of our children alongside others who understand this journey.
Because no one should have to grieve alone.
Grief follows its own winding path, ebbing and flowing unpredictably like the tides. Just when we surface for air, it pulls us back under. Pressure from those questioning our need to pay tribute only widens the loneliness. So many cultures have beautiful rituals to celebrate their deceased loved ones, such as Mexico’s vibrant Día de Los Muertos festival. A beautiful custom where families surround themselves by meaningful remembrances, and continued bonds are healthily nourished. Communities such as these understand grief and healing so well.
Research affirms that creating traditions and spaces to honor lost loved ones comforts and supports those grieving. Pressure to “heal” often stems from others’ discomfort with the complex reality of grief. And it is understandable—it’s a painful place to inhabit alongside someone. As parents who lost children through no choice of our own, we now walk a path forged by this new reality. Though uncomfortable, we cannot walk grief’s winding canyon alone. Parents need compassionate spaces where child loss is met with nonjudgmental understanding to affirm the evolving bonds of love. With this support, in time, the pain can make room for healing to quietly emerge. A part of our child’s spirit always remains woven into our hearts, and by making space for remembrance, gratitude, and legacy, we carry this light forward. Thus, allowing us to find healing.
At Amanda Hope, we walk with you on this journey. We honor each person’s individual path without judgment as they find meaning, forge a new relationship with their lost warrior, and begin to heal. Please allow us to walk this path with you.
Because no one should have to grieve alone.